Lifes Lessons:

I have a little sister who is starting high school this year, and i felt it necessary to post some basic pointers that i think all girls should know. They helped me through my high school career and i personally think they are the keys to success anywhere you go.


BOYS!:
I see that most girls these days are so boy crazy its ridiculous. I don't really care to be honest, i think if you want to be like that- its your choice. I do however, think that girls these days need to realize you don't have to be slutty to fit in. People are going to like you a lot more if you uphold a sturdy set of morals and expectations for yourself. This may seem obvious to some people but i think its important that its being said since there are so many pressures to do otherwise. Whether you see it now or not- the real guys that you'll want to grow up and marry that have some sort of maturity will be turned off by the fact that you were a slut in high school and had sex with 10 guys before age 20. Its unattractive. I think some girls see at as some sort of power- they are "in control" if you were really IN CONTROL you'd be able to say no to pressures from guys and your friends. They will tell you anything they have to in order to get into your pants, sorry but its true. And the next day at school they wont give a shit about you. It would be much better to be the girl that all the guys want and can't have rather than the girl all the guys could have but don't want for anything more than a random hook up. Things like that should have feeling behind them and should not be a drunken moment you'll regret in the morning. Don't be "that girl"- the one that you know everyone talks about and doesn't respect. Its pretty easy to get that way (the slutty girl) and maybe a little harder to stay out of it (be respected), but trust me- its worth it. Once you actually find someone worth being with, you'll be happy you didn't give it up to every guy who asked.


DRAMA!:
OKAY! So drama is all around us, in high school at work everywhere! But i don't think you have to be a part of it. First off i believe in KARMA. If you're going to be talking shit about everyone, chances are, everyone is talking shit about you. If you have something to say or you feel strongly about a situation- go directly to the person you're upset with and deal with it there. DONT go telling Sally, Suzie, Lucy, Beth, Mary and Jen. It will come back and bite you in the ass- the girl you're talking about will more than likely find out and you'll look like a bitch. ALSO if you're constantly talking shit about people to your friends they are going to realize that, and think "wow, if shes saying this about them i wonder what shes saying about me" i know thats how i felt when a friend would constantly shit talk someone else. Its possible to listen to these things, but to keep your opinions out of the pool, say positive things about people- if you want to say something go directly to that person and work it out. You'll be so much happier that way. I have come to see that when you don't have drama in your life there is this certain calmness that you hold inside, i noticed this when random people would bring little bits of drama into my life and that calmness from before was gone. Don't surround yourself with bitchy people who thrive on drama and shit talking. And i'm not saying i've never talked shit- i have- but i've learned the hard way. People don't like bitches, period. So... BE NICE. You will win so many people over with "honey than you will with vinegar" so cliche but sooo true. Be someone that your friends can confide in, someone they can turn to if they need help. You'll feel so much more fulfilled that way.


IN CONCLUSION!:
Be yourself, don't let the pressures of other girls, boys and trends- dictate who you are. Be a person that you're happy to look into the mirror at, you only get once chance at high school and one chance in life- be happy with who you choose to be.




As for now thats all i've got to say on these topics. If you have comments or questions reguarding these things or anything else- feel free to ask.
xox
Mackenzie