Ask Mack: 4

Hey guys- I'm moving to LA in a few days so i might not have as much time in the next few weeks but i'll do my best to keep posting. Thanks again for all of your questions!
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Pushin' the love:
my boyfriend just left for college at the end of august and we've been together for almost ten months. im a senior in highschool and it's coming to that time where i need to apply to college. i want to be with him but i don't know if that would be too soon. his school is great and theres deffinatly something for me there but i dont know if that would be "pushing it" help?

Mack Says:
I think that this particular situation is different for every couple- the best thing that you can do is talk to your boyfriend, if that feels too serious then its clearly too much to follow him to college.. If you can seriously see yourself with him in 10 years, then maybe being near him would be a good idea; but really it depends on your relationship. I don't think that giving up your own goals for a guy is a good idea, but if going there is something that would make you happy with or without him it could be great. Think about yourself here, is this college a decision for you or for him. If its for you i say go for it if its soley based on him i would say you should reconsider.

Long distance lovers:
hey, this is kinda weird doing this because i never do this kinda thing but i totally have no idea what im supposed to do, so i figure asking someone who has no idea who i am will maybe help me out a little. anyways, my friend introduced me to this guy about two months ago and im pretty sure that i fell in love with him at first sight.. we started talking and hanging out, and everything was perfectly fine. he told me he was leaving for college soon, which was two hours away.. and im a senior in high school, so i was kinda worried but he made it clear to me he really liked me and that'd we continue to talk.. he was supposed to come home labor day weekend and he never called to tell me he wasnt comming, and he never called to say he was home.. and he ended up not comming home at all. i was beggining to get frustrated because he never called me anymore although i tried not to let it show because he was busy with school, and his friends and hes big on working out. well, we started to fight and one day he flipped out on me and he hasnt called since.. ive called him multiple times, left voicemails and tried to text him my feelings but ive gotten no response for two weeks. im worried i just totally let this kid take advantage of me, i dont know what to do to get over him.. and im just all around hurt. hes supposed to come home october 18th and i wish i could somehow talk to him but i dont know what to do. help ?

Mack Says:
I think you've done about all that you can do- you've called and texted telling him your feelings. Sometimes there are just relationships that just don't work. Breaking up or feeling hurt is always very difficult, but in all reality time makes everthing better. He is obviously a little bit insensitive for just blowing you off like that- but also understand that hes a freshman in college and he is experiencing new things. Its very hard for even long term serious couples to deal with long distance relatuonships and first years in college. I'm sure that when he met you he had every intention of keeping in touch, but then he realized that there wasn't much that could happen from two hours away when nothing had seriously been estabished to begin with. Moving on would be the best thing for you to start doing, you deserve a guy that can fulfill everything you need, not a long distance phone relationship. Just appreciate it for what it was and realize that it most likely wont be mended, you can't fix something that wasn't really there to begin with

Hair Talk:
hey mackenzie i have some questions i hope you will answer them.
so i hate getting my hair cut cuz they always mess up my bangs. so how do you cut your bangs? or do you make them look like that with a straightener cuz i don't want them cut just straight down my face at an angle i want the like yours how they go around your eyebrow if that makes sence? do you get them cut at like a certain salon?
also i get split ends alot and your hair looks amazing what do you do to keep it looking healthy?
thank you so much(:

Mack Says:
I always cut my bangs myself, i just use regular scissors and cut them in my bathroom haha. In my case i use my right hand and my bangs go from short to long from right to left therefore its easy to cut them- i don't really know how easy it would be if you're the opposite but if you want to try just remember to start out longer because you can always cut more off!! Just cut a little more off the closer to your forehead and get longer as your bangs get closer to your ears, I also try to texture them a little by cutting some of the longer pieces on top a little shorter; not too think though (if you're afraid to do this, maybe hold back because its not a must) I just use regular grocery store shampoo and conditioner; i wash and dry and straighten every day and use some hairspray to add some volume. :]

A little life experience:
I am about to turn 18 in december, and up until now have not once had a job. I was so excited for the summer that i kind of just blew off job interviews, i got a few applications but failed to fill any of them out. Lately my mother has been having problems paying our rent or any of the bills on time. We want to move to the downtown area of Boise but have little money. I want to help her by getting a job. I think my nerves do get the best of me whenever i think about working. Im scared ill do a horrible job, or that i will have no idea what im doing. can you please help me?

Mack Says:
Jobs are all about learning! Don't be scared of messing up- they hire you so that they can teach you, don't ever be scared to ask questions if you're confused. You build experience by trying new things, you just need to apply lots of places and be confident about it. Be likable and be ready to learn quickly- if you really have zero experience just know that some of the higher end places not be ready to hire you yet. Don't be too picky about your first job, you have to start at the bottom and work your way up, thats just how life works! Apply everywhere possible if you're serious about making some money and helping your mom, keeping a steady job is also a good idea. Employers like to see that you can actually keep a job as well as having one. My advice: go out and apply, don't be scared we all have to start somewhere, don't be picky!!

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Here is round 3 of my "advice column"
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder:
So, there's this boy. And over the course of a year and 2 months, we've kind of fallen for each other. And I am the type of girl who doesn't like anyone. Not because they're not good enough, but because I'm way too picky when it comes to relationships. But then I met HIM, and nothing else seemed to matter. I'm not a very trusting person. I try to think far more with my brain as opposed to my heart when it comes to those things, but with him- it's different. Nothing else matters. The only problem? Distance. Before we graduated, he lived 1 hour away, and he'd come every weekend to see me, or vise versa. But he now goes to UNC Wilmington, which is a good 5 hours away from me. We're both so crazy about each other, that we feel sick. It's all so perfect, with the exception of miles. Nothing is going to get better until one of us does something irrational, I don't think. I'm going to a 2 year college, then transferring. I haven't picked a school to transfer to yet, and Wilmington has stayed stuck in the back of my mind. I don't know what to do. Do you think it would be worth it to leave everything behind here for the one person who makes me truly happy? Or should I play it safe, stay here, be rational, and get over it?
It gave me more of a reason to ask you about this subject, since I looked at your myspace before sending you this message, and I noticed you and your boyfriend live a good way away from each other. I figured you'd know WAY more than me about this kind of thing. Are things worth it for you two?

Mack Says:
I think that any couple can battle distance if its meant to be. You have to have trust and boundries for what is okay and what is not- that being said i think that you two should just stay together, see each other as much as possible. It seems like you really care about eachother so why break that up? stay with him and see where it goes, i think you should stay at the 2 year college that you've been planning to go to- keep your relationship going and when the two years is coming closer to an end i really think you'll have a much better idea of what is right. A LOT can happen in two years and i think it would be foolish to get your heart set one something when you don't really know what the future holds. My boyfriend and i lived 500 miles away from eachother for a year, he visited me as much as he could and we talked on the phone as much as we could. I think some key factors to keeping your relationship strong are A. TRUST! You need to trust him and he needs to trust you, you cannot always be there to see what hes doing so you need to know in your heart hes not doing anything you would not want him to be doing- and the same goes for you. B. Talk/text as much as you can just so you feel like you're involved in eachothers lives. C. Go have fun with your friends, don't let your life stop because hes not around. its a waste of time! I truly think you'll find out what is right when the time comes, but for now its too soon. Be happy with him even if you're far away, if you're meant to be together this will work!

Girl Wants Boy:
Hi Mackenzie.
I wanted a to ask for some of your guidance on an issue that's been bothering me for almost a year. Hahah, yes, almost a whole year. So I have the biggest crush on my guy best friend. I never had a guy or a friend who cared or made me laugh as much as he does. But I have my doubts that he doesn't feel the same way as I do about him. But to make matters worse, he has a girlfriend :/
I don't know what to do. It makes me jealous knowing when he's with her and it's killin' me knowing how much I really like him. I want to tell him, but I don't want to destroy our friendship and the friendship I have with his girlfriend. What should I do?

Mack Says:
Honestly i can't tell you what to do- i don't know how much you value your friendship with his girlfriend or how serious his relationship is with her. Something that i do when i have a hard decision to make- i make a list of pros and cons. i weigh my options and i see what the outcome of each decision happens to be. If you decide you want to tell him, remember he may not feel the same. Its never good to break up another persons relationship but i also think its unhealthy to hold back your feelings. Lets say you do tell him- I think it would be best to talk to him privately and face to face. Tell him you're not trying to break up his relationship or ruin your friendship with him- let him know you have strong feelings for him and that you felt like he should know. That way, the topic is out there, he can think about it and realize that its an option; who knows... he might be happy and feel the exact same way. Dont ask him to make a decision just put it out there and ask nothing of him in return. I think you'll get the best results that way if you do decide to tell him. But remember!!! If you tell him and his girlfriend finds out, she might not be so happy about you two hanging out anymore; even as friends.

No time for love:
Okay. This one is a bit complicated and i'm sorry, but there's no way I can't go in depth so here goes; Last year I met this guy and we really hit it off, became really close friends, all that jazz. I had started to really like him when we got to be close friends. Well he graduated last year and I figured it was no big deal that we had been friends and that I'd had a thing for him because I was sure he never felt the same way. He had had a girlfriend all through his senior year and that made it even more apparent to me that he was in no way interested.
Well over this past summer we started talking again. It was no surprise to me that we were just as close as we had always been. During the course of us talking I was seeing this one guy who had sort of treated me like crap and my friend wasn't shy about bad mouthing him to me whenever we were having issues. I figured it was just him being a friend, but when the other guy and I broke up for good, i found out different.
I was really distraught and so I called my friend from my best friend's house at like...midnight. I was complaining to him and crying most of the night and finally he decided to come over and attempt to cheer me up. So, he got there at about one in the morning and stayed until two thirty.
That whole time he talked to me and made me feel a lot better, that and despite my vulnerable state, he kissed me. Normally I would have been appalled at anyone who would do that. I mean seriously? I had just broken up with my boyfriend of nearly three months two days ago. Surprisingly though, I didn't do or say anything. I welcomed the kiss from him. Three days later he asked me to be hid girlfriend and I actually accepted, despite my not being over my ex.
There were a few issues with this relationship. 1. My parents have a rule where I can only date people who are a year older/younger than me. No more, no less. He is two years older than me. And unfortunately my parents know of this. 2. He works a lot. Like I would never get to see him. And between his college, my high school, work, and rehersals for the plays we're both in; there was no time for us to be together.
I told him this two weeks ago. We were spending the afternoon together before a show I had and I told him that not being able to see him was really hard and I hated the way things had to be. He proceeded to suggest that this wasn't the right time for us to be together and that maybe we should wait a while. The problem with this is that by the time I turn 18, he will not be in the same town as me, and I am moving to San Fransisco after I graduate. So waiting, would not work.
Against my thoughts though, I agreed and he dropped me off at the theater to get ready for the show before he had to go to work. It wasn't necessarily said, but we both knew that it was over. I got out of his car and walked 50 feet before I collapsed and started bawling my eyes out.
I was like that for four days solid. About an hour after he had dropped me off, I called him and told him that I didn't care if I never got to see him. I just couldn't stand to lose him. I knew waiting wouldn't work and I wanted to seize the moment. He wasn't so sure.
So I ended up giving up. Or at least appearing as if I have. I haven't talked to him in a week. The thing is, I love him. Completely and totally. It's like... You know how there are certain people in everyone's life that makes them not want to be a better person, but feel like they are who they should be when they're with that person? It's like that. I'm not me without him. I'm this zombie that can't eat or sleep or even smile without thinking about how he is feeling.
Honestly, it hurts. I don't get any sleep and I have a perma-headache. I'm a bitch to all of my friends except for maybe my two best friends. I don't know if I should try and move on or try and make it work. From what I've been told, my now ex is just as miserable as I am and I want us back, but I really don't know what to do.

Mack Says:
Well, it seems like there are many factors trying to keep you apart- first off i hope that you choose to follow your dreams and move to San Francisco (don't let a boy hold you back): make sure you are doing all the things you set out to do- period. Second I can see that you really care about him, my best advice would be to follow your parents rules by not necesarilly "officially dating" but i think that you should talk to him, hang out with him as much as you can and just make it work. There are certain things you just can't avoid like- your parents, his job, moving away and your age. Work with what you have, be close friends that perhaps... act like they are together? You just can't force things to work, so right now all you can do is talk to him, be there for him and vice versa, see him as much as you can and keep living your life. As i think you see, being miserable isn't going to change what this is, just make the best of it and see where it all takes you. Maybe your parents will lighten up and maybe he'll get more free time- but as for now work with what you have, its not impossible to have some sort of relationship with him; and that is what i would advise. I think you'd be happier with a close friendship than not talking to him at all. If you two are meant to be, the world will make it happen.


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Lifes Lessons:

I have a little sister who is starting high school this year, and i felt it necessary to post some basic pointers that i think all girls should know. They helped me through my high school career and i personally think they are the keys to success anywhere you go.


BOYS!:
I see that most girls these days are so boy crazy its ridiculous. I don't really care to be honest, i think if you want to be like that- its your choice. I do however, think that girls these days need to realize you don't have to be slutty to fit in. People are going to like you a lot more if you uphold a sturdy set of morals and expectations for yourself. This may seem obvious to some people but i think its important that its being said since there are so many pressures to do otherwise. Whether you see it now or not- the real guys that you'll want to grow up and marry that have some sort of maturity will be turned off by the fact that you were a slut in high school and had sex with 10 guys before age 20. Its unattractive. I think some girls see at as some sort of power- they are "in control" if you were really IN CONTROL you'd be able to say no to pressures from guys and your friends. They will tell you anything they have to in order to get into your pants, sorry but its true. And the next day at school they wont give a shit about you. It would be much better to be the girl that all the guys want and can't have rather than the girl all the guys could have but don't want for anything more than a random hook up. Things like that should have feeling behind them and should not be a drunken moment you'll regret in the morning. Don't be "that girl"- the one that you know everyone talks about and doesn't respect. Its pretty easy to get that way (the slutty girl) and maybe a little harder to stay out of it (be respected), but trust me- its worth it. Once you actually find someone worth being with, you'll be happy you didn't give it up to every guy who asked.


DRAMA!:
OKAY! So drama is all around us, in high school at work everywhere! But i don't think you have to be a part of it. First off i believe in KARMA. If you're going to be talking shit about everyone, chances are, everyone is talking shit about you. If you have something to say or you feel strongly about a situation- go directly to the person you're upset with and deal with it there. DONT go telling Sally, Suzie, Lucy, Beth, Mary and Jen. It will come back and bite you in the ass- the girl you're talking about will more than likely find out and you'll look like a bitch. ALSO if you're constantly talking shit about people to your friends they are going to realize that, and think "wow, if shes saying this about them i wonder what shes saying about me" i know thats how i felt when a friend would constantly shit talk someone else. Its possible to listen to these things, but to keep your opinions out of the pool, say positive things about people- if you want to say something go directly to that person and work it out. You'll be so much happier that way. I have come to see that when you don't have drama in your life there is this certain calmness that you hold inside, i noticed this when random people would bring little bits of drama into my life and that calmness from before was gone. Don't surround yourself with bitchy people who thrive on drama and shit talking. And i'm not saying i've never talked shit- i have- but i've learned the hard way. People don't like bitches, period. So... BE NICE. You will win so many people over with "honey than you will with vinegar" so cliche but sooo true. Be someone that your friends can confide in, someone they can turn to if they need help. You'll feel so much more fulfilled that way.


IN CONCLUSION!:
Be yourself, don't let the pressures of other girls, boys and trends- dictate who you are. Be a person that you're happy to look into the mirror at, you only get once chance at high school and one chance in life- be happy with who you choose to be.




As for now thats all i've got to say on these topics. If you have comments or questions reguarding these things or anything else- feel free to ask.
xox
Mackenzie

MACK SAYS: 2

Due to a lot more questions I am posting another answer blog to help you out- thanks guys!


Cold Shoulder:
okay so there's this guy that I've "been" with for over a year. we've been on and off a lot, but for the past few months we've really seem to hit it off. We'll for the past, about two weeks, we usually talk (via text/phone) because he lives far away, but recently we randomly just stop talking. At first I said something about it to him or got mad, now I wanted to see how long it would take for him to actually say something to me for the first time. Well it's been almost a week and i don't know if i should continue my cold shoulder and wait for him to come to me, or ask him what his probelm has been =/

Mack Says:
I think that talking directly to him and letting him know what you're feeling is best, we live in a world full of misunderstandings and miscommunication so you never want to assume the worst. You have to consider all things here, maybe he just got super busy with school and other things. Holding grudges in the long run really only hurts you, you may as well get your feelings off your chest and fix the situation. You'll either find that it was a miscommunication or that maybe there are some changes that need to be made- either way you'll feel a lot better for getting things out there in the open.

Best friends girl:
so i there is this boy that i think is real cute and i want him to ask me to homecoming but i dont think he has any idea that i think he's cute. plus i used to have a thing with one of his best friends so i dont know if im 'off limits' to him or what.. what should i do?

Mack Says:
You should just be open with your feelings, what do you have to loose? If you express your interest in him and you are in fact "off limits" i'm sure you'll find out from him. In the end you'll feel much better about telling him the truth- rather than wondering what "could have been"

He loves me, He loves me not:
okay, so I've been off and on with this boy for a year and a half now, but we've never dated before. i love absolutely everything about him, and i adore him to death. We're finally dating, and things couldn't be better and i couldn't ask for more. But, he's only said "i love you" to one girl, and it was his best friend. i've loved before, and the way i feel about him is more than the past boy. Do i tell him and risk him not saying it back, or wait for him to say it? I just don't want to rush it, ya know?

Mack Says:
I think that its a good thing that he isn't the type to throw around "i love you's" that just means once you do hear it, it will be from the heart. It seems like you've been together or had something for a while and there isn't any way to hide how you feel. Like i tell everyone honesty is the best policy, if you're feeling some way and you KNOW that its real- let it out. If he is a good guy, and really cares about you he wont let you saying that ruin anything even if he doesn't totally feel that way yet. Wait for the right time, when things just fall into place and let him know how you feel about him- you'll be glad you did.

Confused but in love:
Okay, So i like this guy & we dated last year in october and we have always had a thing going on. Well recently in March we started to really get together and like each other again. Well he has been ignoring me but he told me he likes me but doesnt want a relationship right now & im fine with that. But i hate not having the attention that i use to get from him. I really like him...what do i do? Do i tell him that i hate that we arent the same or do i just keep going with everything and appreciate the attention i get or what.....

Mack Says:
If hes using the whole "i dont want commitment" card i don't know if you should stick around. I don't think its ever good to let someone keep you in a string IE: have you but not be with you. The simple fact is, he can't have his cake and eat it too. period. Find someone who wants to give you love and attention and treat you like the princess that you are.


Broken Hearts Club:
so, i have been dating this guy, for a little over two months. we tell each other that we love one another, and talk about getting married and having children and all that other really serious stuff together. recently, he told me things have been moving too fast and that he wants things to slow down. he also told me that he loves me more than anything, and he thinks he is just afraid of being hurt again, so he wants to slow things down a bit. i took that as, we might be breaking up soon, but he says thats not at all what he wants. what should i so about the whole thing? and by the way, your awesome for doing this whole advice things. :]

Mack Says:
I think its awesome that you've found someone you truly care for but i would advise aginst rushing into heavy things too soon. I asked my boyfriend what he thought about what you said and to help me get inside of a boys mind he said that your boy does feel strongly for you, but since its been a short relationship so far- he might want to settle in and really experience all that he is feeling for you. I don't think he meant it as "we're going to break up" he just meant we need to get to know eachother better and learn more about eachother before we make all of these long term commitments. I have been with my boyfriend for over three years and i'm still learning new things about him all the time. Just be happy with what you've got, cherish your relationship and get to know eachother. All the rest will come with time.

Ex Drama:
hi, sooo i have been dating this guy for exactly a year. im a senior in high school and everything is perfect. ive liked him since the summer going into my sophomore year..but during my sophomore year he dated my best best friend for about 2 months. about a year after they broke up, she told me i never gave her the chance to get over him.. which there was almost an entire year in between her dating him, and me dating him. and during that time she had about 2 or 3 other boyfriends... basically she told me she still had feeligns for him a year later. he never talks to her or anything.. but her and i arent friend at all anymore. i just want an outsiders opinion about this. a lot of people just think im a bitch for dating one of my best friends exs.. but techincally i likd him first.. haha

Mack Says:
First off, you say you're not friends anymore so there isn't much to worry about. But in all honesty a year is a long time plus she only dated him for a year. I don't think you're a bitch- you can't fight how you feel. I think that its always courties to get a friends blessing before dating an ex just to keep your bases covered, so you wont find out a year later that she still likes him :]

Lonely Girl:
i don't really know where to start, but things have changed a lot in my life this passed year. Im not close with two of the people i spent every minute with for quite sometime. And at first i thought i was okay and i'd meet new people. but it hasn't been as easy as i thought and i don't really want to meet new people.
I feel like i can't even be myself anymore around anyone and like i lost the girl i was. Over summer i became really quiet and to myself. I never used to be this way or worry about things. and now i feel like i CONSTANTlY worry. Im scared to go do things with people and having it be awkard cause i can't be myself and be outgoing. i just worry about what their thinking and it's really getting to me.

idk if there's anything to help?!

Mack Says:
The best way to break this habit is to take yourself out of your comfort zone and do things. Push yourself back into your old ways, go do things with friends or new people. In a situation like this- what do you have to loose? You seem very unhappy and going and trying things can only make it better. I think that this is pretty normal, we all go through a lot of changes whether its friends, styles or our outlook on life. I went through a very dark and sad time when i was about 14 and i found that talking to a counceller really helped me. You also need to rememeber that you cannot worry about what everyone is thinking i've said this before- its taken me a long time to realize that no matter how nice you are, there will always be people that don't like you. You can apply this to your life however you choose, but- the only thing you can do is be YOU, change what people think by being kind and fun. Get out there and show people the real you. Think of things that make you happy, things that you enjoy doing and go do them. Come out of your shell, meet people and have a good time. This is the only life you've got!

Love and Marriage:
okay so ive been dating my boyfriend for a couple of months now. things are going great and i really think hes the one. he tells me everyday hes gunna marry me and i dont think he would lie about that. but i am planning on moving out soon and i really dont wanna have a roommate, i'd like to experience living on my own. but once my boyfriend can move out of his apartment hes in now we've been debating on whether we would move in with eachother. hes the only person i would wanna live with but im afraid this could ruin our relationship if we live together before we're married. what do you think?

Mack Says:
I think its wonderful you feel so strongly about someone, love is one of the best things on the planet. That being said i don't think you should rush into this. I have a boyfriend of over 3 years and i'm moving to LA with him in 2 weeks- we've decided not to move in together. I don't think moving in is a good idea simply because it doesn't give you any free time or space for yourself. I think that moving in together before you've decided to get married is a mistake, because once you DO get married where is the new experience? Its like you're already married when i don't think you're ready for that commitment. Marriage comes with a sort of unwritten contract: you have responsibiltys, bills, house keeping etc and you're ready to take that on when you say "i do" but when your'e dating all of these things come along with moving in together and at this stage you're most likely not ready. Why rush it? There isn't any reason to ruin a good thing, have your space from eachother, have a life outside of your relationship- keep your friends! i can't stress that enough, i see girls all the time throwing away their girls for a boyfriend. Someday you'll look back and wish you still had them to talk to. In conclusion- don't rush it, get to know eachother, this is still a new relationship. I would compare it to eating cookies- you love cookies and you want to eat them all the time BUT if you eat too many you feel sick and might not want to eat them anymore. Don't let that be your relationship!


Old Flame:
Thanks for doing this because I've had this on my mind for some time now but didn't feel like I could talk to any of my close friends about it. Well, I dated this guy for almost 9 months and then he broke up with me. He's dated several people since then and he actually currently has a girlfriend. It's been almost two years since we've been broken up and have really talked. But the other night he texted me and brought up a lot of stuff from the past and our relationship he also told me he wanted us to talk at school. And then he called me and we talked on the phone for an hour. During this phone call he told me that he hates his girlfriend, that she's the worst girlfriend in the world and he's tried to break up with her several times. I don't know what to do about this, because I have had feelings for him ever since we've broken up and now that he's talking to me like this, they're getting stronger. I'm just really confused. And I don't know what brought on his talking to me aout all this.

Sorry for writing a novel.
Any ideas?

Mack Says:
You clearly know how you feel about him- and i would encourage you to act on them. That being said, you have dated before and there must have been some issues causing you to break up. I think that A. he needs to dump his current girl before you start making this all happen again B. you need to REALLY discuss all of the things that caused the break up to begin with (we don't want history to repete itself) He must care about you as well if hes calling you and trying to rekindle your relationship, just be cautious and realize that some changes might need to be made on both sides before it can all work again.

Flirty Friends:
i have a really good guy friend that i've always had an extra flirty relationship with, but some of his friends have liked me and he doesnt want to betray them by being with me. but on friday night he was extra affectionate, and we ended up making out..
we decided to keep it a secret to avoid drama, and i didnt think i really liked him.. but now i feel kind of hurt knowing that we won't have more than secret "rendezvous" hah..
any advice on how to handle that? :/

Mack Says:
Honestly he needs to just own up to the fact that you two are seeing eachother and tell his friends. Unless you were VERY serious with any of them, it should not be a problem. I personally think him hiding it from his guys is worse than actually pursuing you. Tell him how you're feeling and if he can't step it up and make things less secret and more serious, he might not be that great for you. You deserve a truthful relationship! One that isn't going to have to be hidden.

Blunt Boy:
I'm kinda with this guy. well he made it official that we were 'together' but not 'dating' and he calls me baby + bub and stuff like that. and recently i asked if he was going to kiss anyone when he went out and he said "wouldnt let it happen, u mean to much to me". hmm but hes been really blunt lately. like he lives in melb and i live about 4 hours away. but i catch a train up every w/e and he seems really into me. but lately he's just been blunt. but im scared that if i ask whats up he'll think im getting too clingy. hmmmm what should i do?

Mack Says:
My advice is to be honest! ALWAYS! You're not clingy if you're asking what is going on, thats normal. If he expects to be with someone he should also know that it comes along with honesty and trust. You being clingy would insist on him calling you every hour or perhaps asking him his whereabouts every five minutes- asking whats going on is not clingy its normal!

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Alright! Here is the first "batch" of questions and answers. :] Hope it helped- if you need anything don't be afraid to ask.


Ex trouble:
Hi, I have a question.
I had a boyfriend a year ago and we broke up like after 1 month of going out, and one of my friends went to homecoming this year with him, which is how I got together with him exaclty one year ago. & they were like making out right next to me, and she didn't even ask me if it was okay to go out with him, like my other friend did. is it wrong for me to be upset?

Mack Says:
I think that first you need to confront your friend and let her know that you're feeling a bit betrayed by her going with your ex boyfriend. But understand that you didn't have a very long relationship and your friend might have mis-understood how you felt seeing as another one of your friends has dated him. Its always normal to have some sort of attatchment to old love interests- and making out right in front of you probably isn't the nicest thing to do, but at some point you've got to let him go and see that he is going to date other girls and in this case your friends. Honesty is the best policy here, and it will make you feel a lot better getting your feelings off your chest.
xox

Party time:
so... i have a boyfriend, and ive been with him for about a year now, anyways last weekend i was at some party and ended up hooking up with two guys at the same time..

is that something i should talk to him about..

Mack Says:
YES! You should certainly tell him about this, especially if you plan on staying with him. Trust and honesty are the two key foundations to every relationship. Put yourself in his shoes, if he did this to you- would you want to know? And if you're planning on getting with other guys, you might want to consider being single. All the fun with no strings attached.
xox

Face Talk:
hey! i was wondering what type of makeup and skin products do you use? you always looked flawless at school!

Mack Says:
I use neutrogina to moisturize and cleanse- and i use MAC make up for just about everything else! (Studio Fix, Bronzer, Tinted moisturizer)
xox

Lonley Boy:
hi
i havent able to get a girl friend since 10th grade
and now im freshman in college
why do you think that is?

Mack Says:
Maybe you haven't found the right girl! I don't really know your full situation, but you should just be yourself. Be sweet and honest with the girls you have an interest in. Make sure you're taking chances and asking girls out- what do you have to loose? The very worst thing thats going to happen here, she'll say no. So you pick up and move on to the next girl. Relationships are hard and it seems like in college a lot of times girls aren't looking to "settle" down. Go to social events, get to know different people and just have a good time- you're bound to come across the right one soon enough.
xox

Flakes R US:
okay well i really really like this guy and he tells me that he likes me too but he never shows it or anything. & whenever we plan to hang out he always has someway to get out of it.. i don't know what to do about him. I don't want to let him go cause i've always liked him but i don't know if i should talk to him or anything.

Mack Says:
Flakey people are the WORST, and there isn't much you can do to change that about him. Maybe he does really like you, and thats great- but why would you want to waste time with a person that doesn't make time for you? I think honesty is always the best thing, maybe its just a misunderstanding. He might not know how you're feeling or even realize that hes ditching you: let him know how you feel. If you do this and things keep happening maybe hes not the right guy for you. You can't change people and you can't force them to hang out. You deserve a guy who is going to make time for you and who is going to make you feel like a princess.
xox

My new life

I'm moving to LA in 12 days. I can't even fathom the fact that i'll be leaving my family and friends. I have some amazing people in my life, and i'm truly going to miss them. I am nervous about meeting genuine people in LA seeing as how most people just want something out of you. But all in all i need to remember WHY i am going: Acting. Something that i've been doing for most of my life and something that i love doing more than anything. I think about my life, where i'll be in 15-20 years and i can't see myself at a typical job, the only thing i can see myself actually doing is acting. I'm ready for the rejection, the hard work, the tears, the excitement, the nerves ALL OF IT. The weather will be nice, though i will miss my sweaters and boots, pea coats, scarfs and mittens. I wont however, miss driving in the snow and worrying that i'm going to rear end the person in front of me every time i stop. I've found a place to get my head shots done and i have some jobs lined up so i'm hoping things go smoothly. I'm so ready to work my ass off and to get where i've always wanted to go. SO if you're nice, live in LA and want to be friends, let me know. Haha I'm definitely on the market for some nice friends. I'll talk more later. 

xox

Mackenzie

ASKMACK!!

Hey guys, I'm Mackenzie. I've created this blog at a turning point in my life. I've decided to use this "space" to blog about my new life experiences. Seeing as its my first time moving away from home- and also going out there to pursue my dreams i figured i'd be doing a lot of new stuff. I've also created this as a sort of .. "advice" spot. I've found that i'm the type of person that is always looking to help my friends and give insight to those who ask, so what better way to help people than to have a blog dedicated to answering any questions you have. hence the title "GIRL T@LK" and when i say questions i mean anything- boys,girls, make up, hair, clothes, family, friends- you name it and i'll do my very best to help. so- you can ask questions in my comments or send me and email asking anything 

you can send them here

askmack.girltalk@yahoo.com

if you choose to email me i'll keep it anonymous but i'd love to hear from you! 

I'll try posting questions and answers as often as possible in my blog.

and if you want to talk over myspace-

http://www.myspace.com/100m

talk to you soon.

xox

Mackenzie